Trey Songz knows my LIFE!
Awesome Testimony! Proof of "If It's Meant To Be It Will Be"
In 2010, Trey Songz released his fourth album Passion, Pain, Pleasure! I love Trey’s music, so naturally I buy is albums BUT this album in particular was speaking directly to me, about me, and around me! You would have thought that Trey asked me personally about my love life. Let’s take it back real quick — so that you will understand.
So, many of the people that know me, knows my past relationship. If you don’t, I’ll clue you in real quick:
BOY & GIRL meet in college and become friends. They begin to date while in college. Graduate from college still dating.Breakup. Start careers and continue to date. Breakup. Date. Breakup. etc etc.etc.
Now, no shade to my ex, cause there is no love lost there, but obviously there was a obvious pattern growing into our relationship and Larry just happen to be placed in my life, not once but twice, when one of those date/breakup shifts occurred. The first time was in 2010. As I stated in a previous post, Larry and I became acquaintances first, then friends through Lowe’s. Innocently, we would go on lunch dates and talk on the phone. We would discuss his girl drama, my boy drama, stresses of school and work, goals, or anything else under the moon. We soon started expressing stronger feelings for one another – BUT I had a boyfriend and Larry respected that, so he fell back.
In September of 2010, one of my breakups occurred and the one person who was there to console me was Larry. (Smart Man – LOL). My cousin, Ida, was getting married the next month and I asked Larry to accompany me the wedding. He willingly said Yes!! In this time frame, he also met my mom, and she instantly fell in love with him. Life was grand,for a few short weeks, anyway.
Homecoming came and my ex and I rekindled our relationship and that’s right – Larry got put on the back burner. So here is where Mr. Songz come in –
“We Can’t Be Friends” - Larry and I got so involved in our short lived relationship, that the only way I could deal with not being with him was to cut him off completely.
“And i wish we never did it, and i wish we never loved it, and i wish i never fell so deep in love with you and now it aint no way we can be friends.”
– were my thoughts exactly.
“Unfortunate”- Of course, Larry didn’t just let me we go without a fighting chance. The conversation was sooooooooooooooo hard, but in the end, I told him I’m going back to my relationship where there was history. He told me that this (our breakup) wasn’t going to the last for long because the relationship that I was in was not where I was suppose to be.
“And now you got someone who don’t
Treat you right, treat you right
Treat you right
You already know who use to
Treat you right, treat you right
Treat you right
You look for me and you know I be
Out of sight, out of sight
Out of sight
When you the one who told me to get
Out ya life, out ya life
Out ya life
That’s unfortunate
That you didn’t believe in me
You know I got the best love
That you ever had
Tell me how it feels to know
You’ll never get it back”
And there are many more songs on the album that I related too! I wont bore you with all the details– I’m just going to flash forward to how we got back together (after all that is probably what you wanna know, right?)
As I stated before, my mother LOVED Larry and just because I cut him off, didn’t mean she had too and she didn’t. My mother would keep up with Larry via Facebook. They would chat every few months and she always made sure to keep me updated on his life. From my mother alone, I found out that Larry had a son, was back in church, and was getting ENGAGED! Well, at least she thought he was!! LOL!
Every time she reached out to him, I did too. We would have small conversations each time, Larry would come over to visit, or we would meet for lunch/dinner. I was still in my relationship and Larry was trying to resolve matters of his own. But when my mom told me he was in engaged, listen here Linda, I wasn’t happy!!! and I called to find out for myself. From there, I think the rest is history, well the present. :)
After 5 years in my relationship, I decided to call it quits for good. Larry had to sort things out on his side and I understood that, so I let him be. I don’t remember exactly when we decided to become a couple again, I would guess it would be somewhere around his birthday (February) but I haven’t looked back since … I guess, in the words of Trigga himself, we were
“Made 2 Be Together”
“I can’t let you go, I won’t let you leave
One that I know is baby you were made for me, for sure
My life, my life is in your hands, I live to be your man
We’re made to be together so baby
No (no), don’t go (don’t go)
Girl if you don’t know, I give my heart, I give my soul for sure
I’m right here on my knees, if you were to leave, I’d lose my everything”
- Joelle (check out her blog Ladies! http://2beures32115.wordpress.com/)
Gods Time!
Ever since I can remember, I wanted to be married with children. I married young and the baby was next, right? Unfortunately, my plan did not pan out the way I imagined. After 2 miscarriages over a 11 year period I gave up hopes that I would ever be pregnant. I was angry at God. I prayed so hard and I felt like I deserve to have a baby. To make matters worse my marriage was ending. After 3 years of separation, the divorce was final. My dream of being married with children was never going to happen. I had embarked on a new relationship and it is serious. I was trying to figure out how I was going to tell him that I didn’t think that I could have children and maybe we could adopt. One evening in early April of this year I thought I had contacted a stomach virus. Something told me to take a pregnancy test. I had one on hand and I did. Boy was I in shock. I fell on my knees and thanked God for the blessing. Here I am now almost four months later with a healthy baby growing inside me. It’s amazing to go to my appointments and see how far this pregnancy is progressing. This is all God. Even when you give up, God never gives up on you. He does not do things on your time but on His time!
- Tamesha James
WORTH THE WAIT
Beautiful testimony from a young lady during her "waiting" period...
"Sean and I were definitely planned to be together by God. We would have never even crossed paths otherwise. It took a long time and a lot of faith for that to come to fruition...but proved to be worth the wait. We met in 2000...I was 20 and a college student traveling with my parents from Texas to Northern Va. The house my parents were buying wasn't quite ready to move into so we stayed with my granny in Lenoir NC, the town my mom grew up in from birth until she was 20. Sean was an 18 year old country boy from a town down the road from Lenoir called Granite Falls. He was born and raised in this small town...never traveled far from home. His best friend was his grandpa and he learned how to work hard for a living by working in roofs and for a trucking company. I was bored that summer and decided to get a summer job...my best friend at the time, Monica (who by the way was a long time Christian) suggested I see if there was a Manpower in town. (Which I had never heard of...). There was one so I stopped in and told them I was looking for a summer job. There was an opening at a local trucking company to help install a scanner system for a few months. I took the job and showed up the next week to start. Little did I know my life would be changed forever that summer. I met a handsome, sun tanned, sweaty, charming young man that week...and with a second look, a never ending summer romance began. He courted me that summer and for several years after traveling to Texas while I finished college, coming for holidays and putting all he wanted to do on hold to fall in love with me. I will never forget when he told me he loved me... We were in the movies and once he told me I told him to take it back! I fell more in love with him after that day! It was a long, hard road. We lived in separate cities our entire courtship, long distance became the norm for us. Eventually things got tough and we started to wain...we never once broke up or took a break... God was pushing us to stay together. During this time I really found my relationship with God... Mainly during the waiting. I found a great church, got involved in a women's group and realized that building a relationship with God was so important and I worked at it. I stopped waiting for Sean and started waiting on God. About 6 years into our relationship I started coming to grips with the magnitude of Gods planning and timing. What a hard concept to grasp! I wrestled with being lonely and longing to be married but looking back, God knew exactly what He was doing. The summer of 2007, 7 years after we met, we took out annual family beach trip. I talked to God and asked Him for clarity... I asked him show me that the relationship with Sean was the one or tell me to move on. Sean asked me to marry him on that trip... And the rest is history. We never even lived in the same city until we're married in December of 2007. It was so long and so hard at times...so many nights of loneliness and tears. But God knows. He led me where I needed to be and I couldn't ask for more."
- Lauren Lee